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Second Saturday’s Inland Empire

November 11th, 2009

SECOND SATURDAY’S INLAND EMPIRE
AN EXPERTS’ GUIDE TO DIVORCE
LAUNCHES NOVEMBER 14
IN RANCHO CUCAMONGA
 
For Immediate Release:      November 4, 2009

Going through a divorce can be a very trying and difficult experience.  Going through a divorce without the proper support and guidance to make the best decisions for your future makes a horrible experience even worse.  Laurel Starks and Stephanie Maloney have created Second Saturday’s Inland Empire (SecondSaturdayIE.com) to offer such advice.  Second Saturday is a 6-hour program that offers advice on finances, real estate, personal issues, and family law.  The programs allows attendees to leave feeling that they are not alone and are well informed on matters concerning their future.  

Real Estate Expert Laurel Starks states, “Many times people are overwhelmed with all of the decisions that suddenly come their way.  Second Saturdays is our way of creating a place to provide focus and advice in a calm and comforting atmosphere.” 

A therapist starts the day, providing expertise in family counseling.  She shares with you crucial steps to rebuilding your self-esteem while providing for the family’s needs.   Other issues discussed include how to deal with a hostile spouse and what to tell the children.  An Attorney follows this session with legal advice.   What are your rights in the divorce?  How do you deal with custody issues and spousal support questions?  And most importantly – what is this going to cost you.  A Financial Expert provides information on dividing the property and the tax consequences involved.  Next up on the agenda, a Real Estate Expert offers knowledge on what is usually the most valuable asset in the proceeding – the house.  There is discussion about selling versus refinancing and other options.  Finally, a new option in divorce proceedings is presented – mediation.   Replacing a court involved divorce with a collaborative divorce agreement often reduces costs and emotional damage. 

To register for the Second Saturday seminars, please go to SecondSaturdayIE.com.  The cost is $45 per person and includes all materials.  The seminars take place at 8250 White Oak Avenue, Suite 102, Rancho Cucamonga.  For more information, please call 909-945-0609.  
 
WHO:  SECOND SATURDAY’S INLAND EMPIRE AN EXPERT’S GUIDE TO DIVORCE

WHAT: LEARN FROM LEGAL, REAL ESTATE, AND FINANCIAL EXPERTS

HOW TO BEST HANDLE YOUR DIVORCE
 
WHERE: 8250 WHITE OAK AVENUE SUITE 102  RANCHO CUCAMONGA, CA  91730
  
TICKETS: $45 PER PERSON   909-945-0609
 
WHEN: November 14, 2009
  8:00 a.m. to 2:00 p.m.

SecondSaturdayIE.com

Divorce and Self-Direct 401K

November 5th, 2009

We found this incredibly helpful article that was written by Self Directed 401K and wanted to share it with our readers.

Divorce is emotionally a very difficult time, and can easily feel overwhelmed and neglect some of the concrete measures to protect and safeguard their economic interests when they are submitted, the divorce papers. While trying to reach a deal with the emotional separation from your spouse, it is important to start taking a view of what will be done as a unit to establish a degree of financial independence for themselves. If you’ve been “out of touch” on the finances of the marriage at this point it is time to educate themselves. Do not expect the error, your spouse will have your best interests at heart, or oral commitments made at this time honor. Many times in divorce, the worst in people comes and none of the parties believes that it is “fair.” The traditional adversarial approach is still widespread and may be required if your spouse is really useful? Fortunately, the conflict if the division is not too high, there are ways to make the process of cooperation, as proposed by the model of cooperation divorce. Whatever the approach, there are 6 strategies to increase your financial security by promoting: 1 Hire a lawyer. This is a wise recommendation, if there are no significant assets and / or issues of custody that must be resolved. Let friends and family, and talk to at least 3, before embarking on this book. Make sure you understand all the options for continuing the process of divorce, including divorce, mediation and models of traditional litigation. Find a lawyer that it promotes more cooperation with your partner, to fight, as this expensive fees to a minimum. Battles usually only result in more money for the lawyers. 2. Get a credit card in his name, while credit card or with their spouse. This will help in the future, especially if you are the economically disadvantaged spouse is not working, or a significant income from their work. When does a company to try others. 3. Make copies of all financial documents as soon as possible to prevent the “disappearance” of the required documents below. Make copies of bank statements, tax returns, W-2 forms, pay stubs, credit information, insurance, car titles, 401k statements, investment statements, statements Mileage Plan, reimbursement accounts, employees, property valuation and the like. Your lawyer can a list of all the documents you need to evaluate your entire financial situation and determine how to share property. 4. Open your own bank account in your name if you are not their own. Place a contingency fund in the hiding place. If you are concerned that your husband will be recommended, will, or angry about the movement of money into a personal account, try using your debit card for purchases and request a refund. Put this money in the account, only to have access to money when his wife tried to block the freezing of assets, or your access to investment funds. Just be sure to spread the money on the issue, the lawyers do too. 5. Create a realistic budget, what) you (and your children need to live. Include the expenditure categories, such as mortgages, leases, insurance, utilities, car payments, gas, maintenance, medical costs, HOA fees from property taxes, food, clothing, toys and other fixed costs. His lawyer will probably ask this information for purposes of determining the potential assistance. 6. Consult a financial expert. A certificate of divorce to Financial Analyst (CDFA) or Financial Planner you to understand the long-term impact of the proposed arrangements and division of property, and help you understand what is happening in your own interest.

Jon and Kate - Forget About The Eight

October 21st, 2009

Generational Harm seems to be the new theme in the media with all of the coverage on Jon and Kate Gosselin. As we follow the day-to-day, pretty much minute-by-minute coverage of Jon and Kate’s lives, we are forgetting about one important thing – or rather eight important things – the children.

“Every time a parent says a bad thing about the other parent, the child or children take it as a personal cut,” declares Stephanie Maloney, Los Angeles based Certified Divorce Financial Analyst and Mediation Expert. “Children are still emotionally attached to the parents and are personally involved with the disagreement, even if nothing is said directly to them.”

Maloney should know. She has been working with divorcing couples for over 10 years. She is certified to teach the High Conflict Diversion Program™. The High Conflict Diversion Program™ is a resource for parents in high conflict divorce, offering strategies to help them reduce the conflict related to their custody issues.
What Jon and Kate are going through is one very public, high conflict divorce. With eight very important pieces of collateral damage not being given a moment to avoid it.

Maloney states, that “in divorces such as the Gosselin’s, what happens is generational harm to the children. This means the children get to pass on these emotional scars to their children and so on. We are just contributing to future problems by enabling these parents.”

In high conflict divorces, as parents try to justify or correct the allegations, they reinforce that parents care more about being right, than they care about the children’s feelings. “The Gosselins could not be a bigger example of this,” explains Maloney.

Stephanie brings her expertise to help mediation clients make good choices for settlement. Ms. Maloney believes that her work helps bring about amicable solutions to the problems at hand. Much like the dissolution of a business partnership, both parties can leave the table feeling as if they had achieved their goals and not leave adversaries.

Divorce - Sharing the Journey

September 22nd, 2009

Over 2 years ago I started down my path to divorce. When one embarks on such a perilous journey, it’s imitating, confusing, scary and often very lonely. I began to collect my lifeline of support so that I could walk this divorce walk “holding hands” with family, friends and professionals that guided and supported me. I have to say that given this foundation, I was able to get through one of life’s toughest endeavors with minimal scathing and a healthy, happy, joyous disposition. 

I began to share my experiences with women at my children’s school and other institutions I belong to. They would ask “ How you doing?” a simple yet loaded question, and I was quite frank and responded, “Would you like the truth, or would like to hear my stock answer?” Invariably, they wanted the truth and I was willing to share my joyous moments of the day, or my frustrating moments, which were many!! So much of it to do with my daily, imposing divorce. BLAH!!  However, I always told them that my future “X” was a decent man, a kind man, but just not the man for me. As time passed, so many confided in me that they were unhappy and were about to join the ranks of the California divorced. They would ask, “Who did you talk to?”  “How did you maintain sanity?” “Who does your eyebrows?”  Ok, only one person asked, you can never hold back sources of vanity, they actually take the madness away for a brief moment and you stand a little straighter, you look and feel a little better. Never undermine vanity!!

One of my contacts was/is Stephanie Maloney. She helped me to figure out an area of my divorce that was quite special. I admired how she completely understood what I was asking for. She was obviously professional and capable, but there was a very caring and compassionate side to her.

So 2 years later, I decided to collect all my “live” resources and bring them together in a safe place – my home.  There my friends and anyone who shared with me that were about to open the Pandora’s box of divorce could find solace, guidance and a plethora of information. My forum took place Wednesday, September 16th, 2009. I had 5 experts and seven gals in various stages of their plight.

I have never felt more alive reaching out to all these souls and sharing the expertise, tools and benevolence the professionals I had invited had to so generously imparted.

I can’t wait to do it again!!!

April S.
Sherman Oaks, CA

National Child-Centered Divorce Month

July 12th, 2009

The third annual National Child-Centered Divorce Month, taking place throughout July, is being launched with a series of complimentary teleseminars and bonus gifts for parents.

Divorce book author, Rosalind Sedacca, CCT, a certified corporate trainer recognized as The Voice of Child-Centered Divorce, initiated National Child-Centered Divorce Month. “These weeks are dedicated to helping parents make the best possible decisions regarding their children during and after a divorce.”

To help spread the word throughout North America a series of free teleseminars are being offered for parents, educators and others who care about these issues. “Leading professionals within the “peaceful divorce” community will be presenting vital information parents can immediately put to use as they transition through and beyond divorce,” says Sedacca, who is the founder of the Child-Centered Divorce Network.

The schedule of teleseminar topics and dates can be found at www.childsharing.com/childcentereddivorce. That same link will also provide access to free ebooks, coaching sessions and other complimentary gifts for divorcing and divorced parents throughout July.

Professionals who share Sedacca’s concerns, including therapists, attorneys, mediators, financial planners, coaches, educators, clergy and others, will be providing articles, interviews, seminars, coaching sessions and other events geared toward helping parents create a peaceful and successful Child-Centered Divorce in the months and years following divorce. Their message: Regardless of your own emotional state, think first about your children’s emotional and psychological needs when making decisions related to divorce or separation.

“While our divorce legal system needs considerable reform, it is also essential for us to bring a heightened awareness to parents about their responsibility to their children’s well-being before, during and after divorce,” says Sedacca, who is the author of the professionally acclaimed ebook, How Do I Tell the Kids about the Divorce? A Create-a-Storybook Guide to Preparing Your Children — with Love! 

“Parenting is a life-long process, even when you get a divorce,” she adds. “We need to provide better resources and teach better coping skills to parents so they can understand the short- and long-term effects of divorce upon their children.”

Parents, the media and divorce professionals interested in learning more about activities related to National Child-Centered Divorce Month can learn more at: www.childcentereddivorce.com and www.childsharing.com/childcentereddivorce. Media are invited to contact Sedacca directly at Rosalind@childcentereddivorce.com.

Many Can’t Afford to Get Divorced

June 1st, 2009

The Institute of Divorce Financial Specialists conducted a survey recently that indicated that 68% of respondents indicated that they could not afford to get divorcced because of recession-related financial problems. The belief is that this will increase the number of couples who will try to save money by through do-it-yourself processes and avoid using professional services.

This is especially concerning to the Institute because it is more critical than ever to properly plan for the family’s long-term financial security.  Even if the couples work with attorneys, their role is to act as legal advocates and can’t necessarily explain financial consequences in detail.

Click here to read more about these findings.

New Credit Card Rules

May 21st, 2009

At first glance, the sweeping credit card legislation that passed the Senate on Tuesday looks like a huge victory for consumers. The bill, after all, contains relief from penalty fees and certain interest rate spikes.

But for people who pay off their bills each month, and milk the card rewards programs for everything they’re worth, there is some cause for concern.

For months now, the card companies have been threatening to cut rewards programs sharply to make up for revenue lost because of the new restrictions.

My guess, however, is that this talk is just so much saber-rattling.

Card companies want to make money, and big spenders help them do it, even if those cardholders do not go into debt.

First, let’s lay out the things we know will change because of the new legislation. The bill is chock-full of new rules, which will take effect at various points in the year after President Obama signs the final legislation.

There are new restrictions on when card companies can increase the interest rate on balances you’ve already run up. The bill says that banks generally must wait until you’re 60 days late in making the minimum payment before applying a penalty interest rate to your existing debt.

While an earlier bill in the House of Representatives suggested less strict rules, House members have agreed to adopt the Senate version and intend to vote on it on Wednesday. On Tuesday, senators voted 90-5 in favor of the measure.
Card companies will have to give 45 days’ notice before raising their interest rates. There’s also a notice requirement for any significant change to a card’s terms, which may keep companies from surprising customers who have been saving their loyalty points for years with huge alterations in rewards programs.

Banks must send out your bill no later than 21 days before the due date. They cannot send it with, say, 14 days to go, hoping that you won’t get a check to the bank in time to avoid a late fee.

If the card company gets your payment by 5 p.m. on the due date, it’s on time, according to the new rules. No more of this early morning deadline nonsense, which led to late fees for payments that arrived with the afternoon mail. Also, no more late fees if the due date is a Sunday or holiday and your payment doesn’t arrive until a day later.

Let’s say you’re paying different interest rates on the debt on a single card — one for a cash advance, another for a balance transfer and a third for new purchases. Now, when you make a payment over the minimum balance, banks will have to apply it to the highest-interest debt first. I bet you can guess how some banks used to handle this sort of situation.

Banks will need your permission before allowing you the “privilege” of spending more than your credit limit and paying a fat $39 fee for that privilege. The card companies should be ashamed that they needed a law to make this “opt in” requirement a reality.

If you’re a student, it will become harder to get a credit card. No one under 21 can have a card unless a parent, legal guardian or spouse is the primary cardholder. Students with their own income can submit proof and ask for an exception to the co-signer requirement.

The senators, in an apparent endorsement of helicopter parenting, also require written permission from the parent, guardian or spousal co-signer for any increase in a card’s credit line. Hate gift cards? Me, too. There will be some helpful new rules regarding those absurd dormancy fees, which punish people who let the cards sit around before using them.

Under the Senate’s rule, retailers and others that issue Visa, MasterCard, American Express or Discover gift cards or certificates will have to print explicit dormancy fee information on the card. Sellers of the cards will also have to inform the buyer of the fee. That’s a smart twist, since the gift giver can then become aware of the noxious nature of the fee — and elect to give cash or some other gift.

The bill also bans expiration dates on gift cards and certificates any sooner than five years after the card’s original issue date. And the retailer or card issuer will have to print the terms of any expiration date in capital letters in at least 10-point type. Call it the fine print rule.

It will be fascinating to see which retailer or card issuer has the nerve, after having free use of your money for five years, to tell you it will lose the money altogether if you don’t use up their gift card. I dare them to try.

So will credit card companies kill reward programs or drastically scale most of them back? Of course not!

“If you strip away the reward component of a credit card, it’s essentially a commodity,” said Rick Ferguson, editorial director at the loyalty marketing company LoyaltyOne. “The reward is what gives it its personality. It works from a branding perspective as well as a mechanism to influence customer behavior and consolidate spending on a particular card.”

That last part is crucial. People who spend a ton generate fees galore from merchants, and that money helps the card company stay in business. So you may soon see card companies giving away more goodies or lowering annual fees for people who hit certain spending thresholds each year. American Express already does this on a number of cards.

Also, keep in mind that you may have more control over what the card companies do to you than you may think.

If you don’t like the new fees and other things that banks will soon be testing as they grapple with their new economic reality, then make some noise. Send a note to me at rlieber@nytimes.com, so I can write about the latest foolishness — or consumer-friendly twist. At the very least, all of our complaints to the higher-ups at the banks may help persuade the companies to head in another direction.

“Work your way up the chain,” said Dennis C. Moroney, research director for bank cards at TowerGroup, a MasterCard-owned financial services consultant. After all, it may cost less to appease you than it would to replace you.

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Source: New York Times 5/19/2009

Divorce Reality Show

May 14th, 2009

Creature Films is casting divorced couples and couples getting divorced for documentary for a major cable network.  You could earn $20K
TV Land

Cast in Los Angeles | Released In Arizona, Atlanta, Austin, Baltimore / D.C., Chicago, Dallas, Detroit/Michigan, Florida, Las Vegas, Los Angeles, Miami, New York, Northea st, Philadelphia, Phoenix, San Diego
Starts: June
Casting Director: tamibcasting
Audition Dates: May
Contract: union or non union accepted
Pay Rate: $20k per couple if selected
Written Submissions to: thedivorceproject@gmail.com
Phone
: 310-401-5421      
Email:   thedivorceproject@gmail.com

Submissions Due By: 06/11/09
HARD COPY SUBMISSIONS ONLY
Divorced Couple, couple getting a Divorce - Lead / MALE OR FEMALE / 25 TO 50

Story Line: NEW CASTING- $20k
NOW CASTING
THE DIVORCE PROJECT!

Are you a divorced man or woman OR are you currently going through a divorce?

We want to hear your story!

In America, 49 % percent of marriages end in divorce and tens of millions of Americans have been though this often heart-wrenching process…But there has never been a television series that accurately depicts the experience…until Now!

A Major Cable Network is developing a series that will show that there is definitely life AFTER divorce! We will show the love, the loss and the redemption of picking up the pieces and moving on…

We are looking for outgoing, charismatic couples in their mid 20’s to mid 40’s who are currently divorced, or couples who are in the process of getting a divorce and are willing to tell their story honestly and compellingly.

Selected couples will be compensated $20k per couple!

If you or someone you know is interested in participating, please email the following information to thedivorceproject@gmail.com :

1. Name and age of you and your Spouse/Ex.

2. Telephone numbers for you and your Spouse/Ex.

3. Email addresses for you and your Spouse/Ex.

4. City you live in.

5. How long have you been divorced or separated?

6. If separated, have you filed for divorce?

7. Kids? How many, Names and ages.

8. A brief description of your Divorce Story. How you met, what happened, where you’re at now, etc…

9. Please attach some snapshots of you and your family (Spouse/Ex, kids, etc). We do need pictures in order for you to be considered.

What is a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA)?

May 4th, 2009

Since 1993 and the formation of the Institute for Divorce Financial Analysts (IDFA), some 1000 professionals have been awarded the Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) credential.

The CDFA training and designation came about in order to provide a single solution to both individuals and attorneys who are sorting through the myriad financial details of divorce with the goal of arriving at a more equitable settlement, while maximizing tax benefits and avoiding common financial penalties.  The CDFA also has background knowledge of the legal issues in divorce, but does not provide legal advice.

How is a CDFA different than a financial planner or accountant?

Many financial planners and accountants have been trained well in their chosen field, but they have little or no training related to the specific financial issues and potential tax liabilities that are triggered in divorce.

While a planner may have some of the tools necessary to provide a partial evaluation of financial assets and indeed may excel in their work, they are not trained to understand the many esoteric and significant tax laws, implications and pitfalls that can be triggered by the exchange and division of assets incident to a divorce.

The accountant will possibly be familiar with some, if not all of the tax law, and likewise may be among the tops in his/her field, but they are not required to be trained in forecasting the actual long-term outcome of settlements; establishing parity of different assets; and the intricacies of valuing and transferring retirement assets, to name but a few differences.

Bottom Line:

Without the unique knowledge and analysis of the CDFA, many have assumed that what appeared to be a fair division of property and assets (50/50) on paper is an equitable settlement. In fact, a more careful analysis of this scenario may reveal a disparity in net worth over a period of years, illustrating a less favorable financial impact on one party over the other.

Who Hires the CDFA?

The services of the CDFA may be retained by an attorney, mediator, or directly by either or both of the divorcing parties. Lately many are choosing to use the services of a CDFA to provide the neutral financial evaluation required in the Collaborative practice model for divorce. (Read Our Blog Post:  “The Three Faces of Divorce” for more detail)

What are the Benefits of Using a CDFA?

* settlement negotiations typically move more quickly

* significant cost savings are typically realized

* a more equitable settlement is typically achieved for both parties

*  a 3rd party’s (CDFA)  evaluations help defuse the emotionality of financial decisions

* client satisfaction is improved when the long-term outcomes of different scenarios are illustrated in “net bottom-line” numbers

Summary:

*  The CDFA provides litigation, mediation, and collaborative practice support for the attorney and client on financial issues of divorce.

* Provides the client and attorney with data that shows the financial effect of any given divorce settlement.

*  Appears as an expert witness in court (litigation), or in mediation, arbitration, and as a Neutral Evaluator in Collaborative Practice divorce proceedings.

* Is knowledgeable about specific tax laws that apply to divorcing couples.

* Has background knowledge of the legal issues in divorce.

* Is trained to collect exhaustive financial data, as well as information about the clients’ financial goals to provide a comprehensive analysis of the entire financial picture, including but not limited to, cash flow analysis and net worth projections.

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Teresa Dentino, CEO of The Financial 411,  is a financial relationship advisor, expert witness and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst who has served both the Bay Area and international clients for 25 years with court and media recognized experience delivering financial literacy, analysis and programs resulting in improved financial outcomes for individuals, couples, families, and family offices.  You can learn more at www.the financial411.com or by calling 650.851.8959.